your most important everything!

We all need someone to hold us when we are sad, to cheer us when we are lonely, to stand by us when we are having a fight. We rely on your family, your friends, your partner, to be there when you most need them.
But what do you do when it is one of these people you are fighting with?
What happens to you when one foundation to your support network is breaking?
What is the right (if there is any) thing to do, to say, to think, not to do?

I have had fights with my family, me and my dad sometimes get along like oil and water.. but we always leave those fights in a term where we can still end in a positive note.
I have fought with my boyfriend but the love is stronger than the anger so we want to sit down and discuss and build stronger relationship.
I have fought with friends, about issues that for me were important but for them were non-existing. But again.. the feeling of support, love and respect is overpowering so the fight only makes my relationships stronger.
We all have different opinions, we sometimes say things without thinking it through. We have our bad days and we have our good days. We have situations in our life where we are helpless and we might take it out on those we believe are not standing besides us (even if they in reality are and we are just to blind to see it).
But it is what we do after those fights, after those words of anger and hurt have been said, that determines where we go from there. Are we going to make sure our support network becomes stronger after such a low  and hurtful time in our lives, or are we going to stay "proud" and make sure no one ever messes with you again?
And if you choose the second one? what are you gaining? Yeah you might be right, you are gaining your self respect as you stood your ground, and didnt take no crap from no one. But is that worth leaving a gap in a network that has followed you through thick and thin in your past, that have been there when you needed help, or you have cried and laughed with in their time of need?
Sometimes I think we have to be clear what is the most important thing in our world, and sometimes we dont see it so easily.
But hey, the most important thing in the world for you might be completely different than what I consider the most important. But all I ask is that you do not allow your ego to take over and ruin the good thing you have already spent years and years building!
Just a small wondering thought on a Friday night.

-with love-