The road to relationship - is a journey worth taking

It is interesting, this process of relationship. I've mentioned it few times how hard it is to follow the "rules" of dating, and how frustrated I am that people think we have to play games to get what we want. It just makes a hard process even harder. Finding the one you like/love is no easy task. So having all the barriers and rules, just frightens people of I can imagine.. people just give up on the search, for people who may already be within their sight and just let be, give up, quit. Because that is so much easier than having to go through this winding road.

So the "road" to relationship is hard. That I knew already, both from others as well as my own experience. but I always try to take out the games, the "rules" in order to make it a bit more easier. I wish everyone would think along the same lines as I do.. but that will never happen, another wishful thinking on my behalf. But how can I make sure that I dont fall into playing the games others are playing? How can I not become a "victim" of the relationship game?

I believe, in my case, it is by being extremely outspoken about my intentions, what I want to get out of the particular relationship and being honest. I know, its not as easy as it sounds. far from it.
I know this is what I strive for.. but being honest, being open about your feelings, to a person you like - or even love - can be so frigging scary.
I start to think, what if they dont agree?
What if they dont want the same thing?
What if they think I'm naive for acting this way?
What if, what if?
These what if's are valid.. but the thing is.. if the person you are in a relationship respects you.. s/he will respect that you speak your mind, that you are honest to yourself. even if you might not really play the game they are playing you... I believe respect will be there. And also, if you cannot trust that person to overcome the "rules of the game" and be honest and listen to your concerns, then by all means, get out of that relationship!! That is my opinion.

Everyone plays games... I even play games. I try to choose my "settings of the game, the situation", carefully. try to make sure my game does not rule the way I build relationship with people.
Because those games, I find can break down a relationship just as fast as it can build one!! And that I dont want..if I'm anyway interested in building a relationship with someone. then I want it to be built on a solid ground.. with respect.

Just another thought I needed to get out there.. because all my questions just circle in my head and are one step closer to have answers when I "speak" them out loud here.

-with love-