Birds of feather flock together? is that healthy?

I've started to think a lot about differences in opinion, when too much difference starts affecting relationships (or does it at all) and are opinions build on valuable foundations or not so much (if I can say so).

I know a person who has political opinions and views that are so far from my own, but I enjoy listening to his  point of view, discussing issues with him and challenging his views based on my own opinions. But I have been thinking a lot lately about the future and how our opinions and political views can impact our relationship, will it be a challenge? Because the people we associate the most with are the people with similar worldviews as you do, right? Will they be as open minded as I am to discuss and argue and listen and acknowledge?
I want to believe so. But i think it is an interesting thought.
I do not know a lot of couples who have total opposite political views.
I do not know a lot of best friends who do not agree on issues.
of course, no one has exactly the same ideas and views (if so, that it is not their own in my opinion). But I still think people flock to like-minded people.
Or am I wrong?
I dont know any politicians who married someone from the opposition, not here in the western world, or in other country (fair enough I havent done an extensive research).
But if we only associate with those who are similar to ourselves, with similar views and believes, will we ever learn, will we ever challenge our thoughts only to make them stronger or find new paths to believe in?
And isnt that a challenge for our world?
Does that not just lead to impatience and intolerance ?

I dont know.. but that is my opinion.
I would like to hear yours!

- with love -

how is my life?

How is a life
that one moment spreads joy
and the next is covered in tears?

How is a life
where pain is to be
in love with the one?

How is a life
where the one you love
is there and not there?

How sad is my life,
when the day of joy
becomes overly sad?

How sad is my life
when tears decide my time
and I cry in the night?

How is a life
where you hope for the best
when sadness takes over?

that is a life I am willing to live!

life is full of beauty - we just have to be open for it!

During hard times, one has to hope that brighter time is on its way... because if we keep focusing too much on the hard time in our life, we lose spirit and passion for life.
I know this first hand.
Not an experience I want to dwell on but it leads me to another thought I had today...
Beauty of life. Can that only be visible after you see things in black and gray? why do we always wait with appreciate life until it becomes extremely hard?

Today I was walking around this beautiful garden, leaves were falling, the colors were amazing and I was there with loved one.
for a moment I stopped and I just looked around me. How can I think of negative things in this environment?
How blessed am I to live in this place, to be able to enjoy and appreciate the seasonal changes and share this with the man I love?
And that made me realize that I dont do this enough.
Just look around, counting my blessings (because they are more than the negative things) and just love my life and the people in it.

Of course, this doesnt make the challenges go away.
but maybe, just maybe, by appreciating the beauty around us, the people that make life special and the moments that actually mean the most.. the challenges will not be so unbearable.
I think so.
I actually can feel it.. as I am looking forward to tackle the challenges of the coming week.

I hope you feel the same after stopping and just letting go.. breath in the beauty your life has to offer (it is there somewhere, I guaranty you that).
I hope life's challenges will become just a speed bump you will easily overcome.

that I wish for.
-With love-

Be strong enough to be your girl!

It is amazing feeling when you are in love, when you found that special someone you want to share your life, your love, your strength and weaknesses, your happiness and sorrow. basically your everything. It doesnt happen easily for most people, because finding someone means you have to show vulnerability and emotions.. two things people are scared to show. And I get it.. I am the same. I make sure I hide my feelings but sometimes that is just so hard.

So when you find someone you are willing (and able) to share your life with it becomes so hard when you cannot help them. some situations you are not strong enough, or have the capabilities to help them and that is one of the worst feelings in the world.

But what can one do in those situations?
because you feel so helpless, your partner is hurting or in tough situations, and there is nothing you can do. Things are not in your reach to help.

How do you make sure you are strong enough to just be there?
just be there for the one you love in their situation?
and what does it mean, to be strong?

I want to be strong.
I want to understand what it means to be strong.
and how to get to that strength.
Because I want to be there for the people in my life, my loved ones.

Because they are there for me when I need them.
and it's extremely important to me.
I want to make sure they feel the same!

- with love -

who are you and what do you want?

Despite the absence of writing my mind has been generating a lot of interesting thoughts. I just havent had the motivation to write them down or share with people. When life gets hard, it is like I close off. I need to bounce back.
And motivation is coming back, with support from loved ones. Life is becoming slowly more optimistic and good things are happening again. After a LONG summer full of challenges where I couldnt see the way out of.
I have said so many times "life is what you make of it" and of course it is true. But the thing is, you are not alone in this life (thankfully). You have to interact with other people on your quest to get the best life possible. And sometimes its the other people who stand in your way, who are the challenge in your life. and it is not so easy to work around other people.
Slowly the situation involving the "troublemakers" changes, sometimes to the better, sometimes to the worse. thankfully in my case it changed to the better. I of course did what I could do to solve the situation, but the other party has actions as well. And sometimes those actions lead you in even more challenges that you were in before.

Life is not so simple as you can do whatever you want and get whatever you want because there is always the interaction to the other person involved. of course, if you dont do what you have to to reach your dreams you will not become any closer to it. However, it would be naive to think that it comes without any obstacles or interactions with others. And maybe the other party wants what you want and will not allow you to get it. Maybe they screw you over, obstruct you in your quest by their actions (sometimes unintentionally). But you always have to account for interactions of others and how you want to counteract.

This is what I have been dealing with this summer. People unintentionally screwing me over, which leaves me in a mess. But I still decided to counteract with open minded, good communication and optimism, (dont get me wrong. I made sure I knew my rights and got what they owed me, just by being diplomatic). But despite that I want to work things out and do what I can to do so, the other party's action (or lack of) will affect the outcome of my work.

So my final point is this.. do what you have to do..but be aware that we are not alone in this. There are other people in the process you have to work with or communicate with that might disturb your work. So always have all details in place, keep facts clear, and think of all outcomes possible. By doing so, you will not be so surprised by the results and more able to counteract in the best way possible for you to reach what you want to reach.
human encounters are inevitable. We just have to be able to build the relationship in the way it is not a hinder to success but a support to it. You have to know how you are dealing with (as much as you can know someone) and by doing so you are more able to estimate reactions and build the right counter strategy if needed.

So let us not be surprised by people who might want our success but let us be prepared and overcome their selfishness and still reach our goals and dreams!

p.s not everyone is out to hurt us.. we have to find those who are friendly and build strong relationships with these people because we might need their support in dealing with those who do hurt us.

-with love-

month of experience hopefully leads to a month of dreams!

The end of another month is here, strange feelings are attatched as phases come to an end and new begin, each with their own issues and troubles as well as joy and smiles. 

This last month has flown by so fast.

Most likely because Ive been keeping myself busy.

I try to stay active, try to learn new things, try to meet new people who might help me on my way and I might be able to learn from as well.

This past month has been full of professional experiences, personal experiences, love experiences and more.

Its taken me highest of high emotionally, down to the lowest of low where I become scared and vulnerable.

But all in all, this past month has been amazing.

I reconfirmed my passion and I am sure that I am heading the right way. Just getting there is taking longer time and has more barriers than I had expected.
But my approach to this is that ”good things do not come easy”.
It is just, when you know what you want to do when you grow up, but face troubles in getting there, it discourages you. It demotivates you. It allows doubt to enter your thoughts.

”I mean, if it is what I am supposed to be doing with my life, would it be so hard to reach it?”

YES!

So I´ll not keep this longer, but leave you with the thought that if it hard to reach your dreams, it is mostly because they are worth the work.

BUT, in some cases the dream is not supposed to be reached. It is not logical, not realistic to reach it, your work is not bringing you closer. Then it is important to re-evaluate the dream and either find a new one or a new way to reach it.

Knowing what you want to do with your life is the biggest part in the process. We now just have to figure out how to reach it, how to overcome the barriers and to realize if it is not meant to be, find a new dream.
It is not so easy, but easier than chasing something that will never happen.
at least you go through moment of pain when dropping the dream and finding another, but your chase will show some efford.

So at the moment, the barriers to my dreams are not too high, I still see ways to overcome them. But if, and I hope it doesnt come to this, but if I realize that I might not reach what I want that way.. I know I have to re-evaluate my dream, and figure out a new way to reach where I want to be. Or even.. figuring out something else I could do when I grow up.

So I wish you all a great new month, full of adventures and dreams. And I wish you success in reaching the place you want to be at in your life.

-with love-

I take the responsibility for my own life!

I guess life is only as good as you allow it to be.. or what?
Last post I mentioned the Law of attraction and how positive (or negative) thoughts call on good (or bad) events in your life.

So now.. loads of good things have come my way. But in this, like in everything in life, there is a balance between "good and evil". One cannot be without the other.
So Bad news have also arrived.
But I have tried my best to figure out how to solve the problem and still be able to look at life with a smile on my face.
Because I realize that I cannot ask for only good things (well I can but I have to realize that good things come in different "levels" of good) and that things will come my way I do not have any control over, might not be happy with or might mess up my life.
But it is my job, as an individual, as a person in my society, to work through my issues and not blame the "world".

Being a part of society is important to me.. and it should be important to everyone.
But I don't feel like everyone understands how amazing it can be.
My thoughts are, I am no one if I´m not belonging to something, someone, somewhere.
And it is this "something, somewhere" that gives me motivation to work on my issues, to smile to the world and contribute.

I havent given this a lot of thought,
Just wanted to mention this... that it is our role to be a part of our society, to work through our issues to be able to participate and give back and receive what others are giving.
Share our good thoughts, good events, and have support from your network, your society, your people in times of need.

This is just what I believe, like everything else here..this is what floats around in my head!
I hope someone is thinking the same..
if yes, please share.
If no, then please share why! :)

-with love-