Interpretations of love

Why is it that when women (yes I know I'm generalizing) are in love they also become overly interpretive? Why do we become so insecure? Why do we doubt everything and everyone good in our life?
I keep wondering about this as I feel i'm trying to interpret every little thing, and in a more of a negative way than in a good way.
Every small remark, action, lack of action becomes a little note in my head, and I over analyse it to "understand" what he actually meant by this.
Why do I do that?

I believe its good to understand behaviors of your significant other, but when it becomes such an over analysis and negative interpretations it is nothing more than a hinder to the relationship.
And I know that.. but I cannot stop interpreting and doubting. That only leaves me hurting because he does not mean the things I've created in my mind, with his actions.

I wish I could just stop interpret and over analyse.
It is not so simple, because my "research" has shown that I am not the only woman in a relationship that does these things. So maybe it is a female thing..
but then, how can we overcome it and make sure we enjoy the love and the relationship we are in?

just a question, would love to have an answer to it but I doubt I will.

- with love -

I feel like snow... my romance in life!

It is amazing how much the weather affects our emotions. When its raining and dark outside, we are more likely to be in a sadder mood, feeling blue and heavy and even close to depression. And when the sun is shining our spirit lifts up and we enjoy life.

But I have noticed that my emotions also "affect" the weather. What do I mean by this?
I mean, when I am sad, no matter how the weather is, it feels dark and cold. The snow falling is uncomfortable and bothering, its freezing outside and so on. But when I'm happy, life becomes so much better. even if it is dark outside.. I try to look up and see the stars. When its snowing I feel it is romantic and rain is peaceful.
So I mean what I say, its not only the weather that affects our emotions. Our emotions are strong enough to affect our interpretation of the weather, and how we tackle each day at a time.

Why did I want to write this?
Well, I dont think we are aware of our own power to make life hard or lively. Being aware how your emotions color the world you live in, is important as you might try to balance emotions, limit the drama around you and stay focused and optimistic as much as you can.
Then the hardness in life is likelier to become less hard, could be romantic even. If we just allow it to be so.

That was just my message this time.
Be aware of your feelings and how they affect your day, your relationship with others and the weather ;)

-with love-

Birds of feather flock together? is that healthy?

I've started to think a lot about differences in opinion, when too much difference starts affecting relationships (or does it at all) and are opinions build on valuable foundations or not so much (if I can say so).

I know a person who has political opinions and views that are so far from my own, but I enjoy listening to his  point of view, discussing issues with him and challenging his views based on my own opinions. But I have been thinking a lot lately about the future and how our opinions and political views can impact our relationship, will it be a challenge? Because the people we associate the most with are the people with similar worldviews as you do, right? Will they be as open minded as I am to discuss and argue and listen and acknowledge?
I want to believe so. But i think it is an interesting thought.
I do not know a lot of couples who have total opposite political views.
I do not know a lot of best friends who do not agree on issues.
of course, no one has exactly the same ideas and views (if so, that it is not their own in my opinion). But I still think people flock to like-minded people.
Or am I wrong?
I dont know any politicians who married someone from the opposition, not here in the western world, or in other country (fair enough I havent done an extensive research).
But if we only associate with those who are similar to ourselves, with similar views and believes, will we ever learn, will we ever challenge our thoughts only to make them stronger or find new paths to believe in?
And isnt that a challenge for our world?
Does that not just lead to impatience and intolerance ?

I dont know.. but that is my opinion.
I would like to hear yours!

- with love -

how is my life?

How is a life
that one moment spreads joy
and the next is covered in tears?

How is a life
where pain is to be
in love with the one?

How is a life
where the one you love
is there and not there?

How sad is my life,
when the day of joy
becomes overly sad?

How sad is my life
when tears decide my time
and I cry in the night?

How is a life
where you hope for the best
when sadness takes over?

that is a life I am willing to live!

life is full of beauty - we just have to be open for it!

During hard times, one has to hope that brighter time is on its way... because if we keep focusing too much on the hard time in our life, we lose spirit and passion for life.
I know this first hand.
Not an experience I want to dwell on but it leads me to another thought I had today...
Beauty of life. Can that only be visible after you see things in black and gray? why do we always wait with appreciate life until it becomes extremely hard?

Today I was walking around this beautiful garden, leaves were falling, the colors were amazing and I was there with loved one.
for a moment I stopped and I just looked around me. How can I think of negative things in this environment?
How blessed am I to live in this place, to be able to enjoy and appreciate the seasonal changes and share this with the man I love?
And that made me realize that I dont do this enough.
Just look around, counting my blessings (because they are more than the negative things) and just love my life and the people in it.

Of course, this doesnt make the challenges go away.
but maybe, just maybe, by appreciating the beauty around us, the people that make life special and the moments that actually mean the most.. the challenges will not be so unbearable.
I think so.
I actually can feel it.. as I am looking forward to tackle the challenges of the coming week.

I hope you feel the same after stopping and just letting go.. breath in the beauty your life has to offer (it is there somewhere, I guaranty you that).
I hope life's challenges will become just a speed bump you will easily overcome.

that I wish for.
-With love-

Be strong enough to be your girl!

It is amazing feeling when you are in love, when you found that special someone you want to share your life, your love, your strength and weaknesses, your happiness and sorrow. basically your everything. It doesnt happen easily for most people, because finding someone means you have to show vulnerability and emotions.. two things people are scared to show. And I get it.. I am the same. I make sure I hide my feelings but sometimes that is just so hard.

So when you find someone you are willing (and able) to share your life with it becomes so hard when you cannot help them. some situations you are not strong enough, or have the capabilities to help them and that is one of the worst feelings in the world.

But what can one do in those situations?
because you feel so helpless, your partner is hurting or in tough situations, and there is nothing you can do. Things are not in your reach to help.

How do you make sure you are strong enough to just be there?
just be there for the one you love in their situation?
and what does it mean, to be strong?

I want to be strong.
I want to understand what it means to be strong.
and how to get to that strength.
Because I want to be there for the people in my life, my loved ones.

Because they are there for me when I need them.
and it's extremely important to me.
I want to make sure they feel the same!

- with love -

who are you and what do you want?

Despite the absence of writing my mind has been generating a lot of interesting thoughts. I just havent had the motivation to write them down or share with people. When life gets hard, it is like I close off. I need to bounce back.
And motivation is coming back, with support from loved ones. Life is becoming slowly more optimistic and good things are happening again. After a LONG summer full of challenges where I couldnt see the way out of.
I have said so many times "life is what you make of it" and of course it is true. But the thing is, you are not alone in this life (thankfully). You have to interact with other people on your quest to get the best life possible. And sometimes its the other people who stand in your way, who are the challenge in your life. and it is not so easy to work around other people.
Slowly the situation involving the "troublemakers" changes, sometimes to the better, sometimes to the worse. thankfully in my case it changed to the better. I of course did what I could do to solve the situation, but the other party has actions as well. And sometimes those actions lead you in even more challenges that you were in before.

Life is not so simple as you can do whatever you want and get whatever you want because there is always the interaction to the other person involved. of course, if you dont do what you have to to reach your dreams you will not become any closer to it. However, it would be naive to think that it comes without any obstacles or interactions with others. And maybe the other party wants what you want and will not allow you to get it. Maybe they screw you over, obstruct you in your quest by their actions (sometimes unintentionally). But you always have to account for interactions of others and how you want to counteract.

This is what I have been dealing with this summer. People unintentionally screwing me over, which leaves me in a mess. But I still decided to counteract with open minded, good communication and optimism, (dont get me wrong. I made sure I knew my rights and got what they owed me, just by being diplomatic). But despite that I want to work things out and do what I can to do so, the other party's action (or lack of) will affect the outcome of my work.

So my final point is this.. do what you have to do..but be aware that we are not alone in this. There are other people in the process you have to work with or communicate with that might disturb your work. So always have all details in place, keep facts clear, and think of all outcomes possible. By doing so, you will not be so surprised by the results and more able to counteract in the best way possible for you to reach what you want to reach.
human encounters are inevitable. We just have to be able to build the relationship in the way it is not a hinder to success but a support to it. You have to know how you are dealing with (as much as you can know someone) and by doing so you are more able to estimate reactions and build the right counter strategy if needed.

So let us not be surprised by people who might want our success but let us be prepared and overcome their selfishness and still reach our goals and dreams!

p.s not everyone is out to hurt us.. we have to find those who are friendly and build strong relationships with these people because we might need their support in dealing with those who do hurt us.

-with love-