How to work the law of attraction?

Life is interesting.
One day you might be having a rough day, nothing goes your way and you are demotivated. And the next day, things are so much better, you're seeing results, you are positive and passion comes up again.

Law of attraction becomes important to focus on when the streak of good events is taking place in life. Good energy, good thoughts on your behalf bring more good events and good thoughts. That cycle of positive is what life is all about. Negatives are bound to happen in between.. but we cannot allow it to take over our thoughts.

This is what I'm trying to work on.
I know its hard, I experience it every day.
But I wanna enjoy life when things are working out, like it is now in my life.
So by reflecting a little on my thoughts, my attitude, my experience in the week that has passed, I am loving life. I want to make it continue so I'm thinking how can I make sure that actually happens.
Dont get me wrong. Not so pleasant things took place in the week but the positive out weights the negative. and that is what I want to continue focusing on.
But how to do so?

That is what I'm still working on.
I'm still reflecting on my experiences, my thoughts and what I might have done to change the course of my life to the better.
I look at the people around me, how I approach them, how I work with them, how I respect and treat them.
I look at my attitude towards obligatory things in my life, how I partake in them and how I make sure I'm learning something from everything I'm doing,

I'm loving life at the moment.
And I want it to stay.
I want to send out positive energy to receive more positive energy.
And I'm working on it.

-with love-

The road to relationship - is a journey worth taking

It is interesting, this process of relationship. I've mentioned it few times how hard it is to follow the "rules" of dating, and how frustrated I am that people think we have to play games to get what we want. It just makes a hard process even harder. Finding the one you like/love is no easy task. So having all the barriers and rules, just frightens people of I can imagine.. people just give up on the search, for people who may already be within their sight and just let be, give up, quit. Because that is so much easier than having to go through this winding road.

So the "road" to relationship is hard. That I knew already, both from others as well as my own experience. but I always try to take out the games, the "rules" in order to make it a bit more easier. I wish everyone would think along the same lines as I do.. but that will never happen, another wishful thinking on my behalf. But how can I make sure that I dont fall into playing the games others are playing? How can I not become a "victim" of the relationship game?

I believe, in my case, it is by being extremely outspoken about my intentions, what I want to get out of the particular relationship and being honest. I know, its not as easy as it sounds. far from it.
I know this is what I strive for.. but being honest, being open about your feelings, to a person you like - or even love - can be so frigging scary.
I start to think, what if they dont agree?
What if they dont want the same thing?
What if they think I'm naive for acting this way?
What if, what if?
These what if's are valid.. but the thing is.. if the person you are in a relationship respects you.. s/he will respect that you speak your mind, that you are honest to yourself. even if you might not really play the game they are playing you... I believe respect will be there. And also, if you cannot trust that person to overcome the "rules of the game" and be honest and listen to your concerns, then by all means, get out of that relationship!! That is my opinion.

Everyone plays games... I even play games. I try to choose my "settings of the game, the situation", carefully. try to make sure my game does not rule the way I build relationship with people.
Because those games, I find can break down a relationship just as fast as it can build one!! And that I dont want..if I'm anyway interested in building a relationship with someone. then I want it to be built on a solid ground.. with respect.

Just another thought I needed to get out there.. because all my questions just circle in my head and are one step closer to have answers when I "speak" them out loud here.

-with love-

You are my special someone - let me be yours!

It is amazing how good people can make you feel and how special they can make you believe you are.

Everyone of us has the need to be cared for, need to feel loved, need to feel comfortable in our own skins, need to have smiles and intimite kisses once and a while.
Finding the people who make this happen for you is a blessing.
Do not take it for granted you will meet one easily.

Being a shy person, not so comfortable about myself in one way but super secure about my abilities in other areas, is a challenge.
Being totally comfortable with someone, allowing my guard to fall back a little, laughing, smiling, feeling ok by crying in front of that someone, is a rare feeling for me.
So when I've found it, I'll try my hardest to fight for it.
because that is what it takes.... fight!
Show appreciation, show that person the same respect, same love, same vulnerability to allow them to cry or laugh,
that is what makes life worth living, it makes the hard times worth it.
Because you have someone to share them with, someone who makes you feel better about you and your situations.

Who doesnt want that?
but do we all recognize it and fight for it when we have it?
I doubt it.
And that is what I fear, not fighting hard enough, not fighting fair enough and showing how much this person means to me!

By writing this, I wish you all to be open to this person. this one who makes you smile and be secure about who you are, no matter how you look like.
I wish you all to hold on to this person, because they dont come often..
I wish you to fight for them. Because if you dont, they'll leave.
Just as much as you need to feel the love, feel the security, feel the passion.. that person has the same needs as well.
Do them right just as they are doing you right.

That is my wish, for the coming days, months and even years..

-with love-

Music makes the world go round - and all my feelings as well !!

Few times here I've written about the power of lyrics and music, how certain songs and their words can heal/refocus your thoughts, your feelings and your heart.
I have my own personal healing song, a song I listen to when I know I need to move on.. when I know I cannot stay in the mindset I'm in at that time.
And it works ALL THE TIME.
maybe that is because I know it is my healing song and when I listen to it in that purpose it just works.

but its not that often that the singer impacts me more than the lyrics.
However, I just had that experience tonight.
I was listening to a song I dont know sung by a person I have only heard few times sing and I could feel my happiness and love just flowing. It made me think about people I care about, it made me think of not being angry when there is no need - and the funny thing is that I dont know if the lyrics of the song were in any alignment with this or not.. I just heard this guy's voice and I got blown away.

I just wanted to share this with anyone who is reading.
Be open for empowerment, for inspiration, for guidance
Because it can come in any form, at any time when you least expect it.
And when it does come and you notice that it impacts you - listen to those feelings, listen to your motivations, listen to what this is telling you.. and follow it.

I know that I feel even happier now than I was before this song... my anger melted away and I'm so happy for that, because it was useless anger - but I couldnt see it until now - when certain emotions were woken in me.
And I appreciate it.
I hope you do too!!

-with love-

Balance in emotions lead to balance in work/life situations?

Today should be the last day of February but lucky me, there is one extra day this year. I had planned to be more active in writing here, to make sure I share my thoughts and hopefully learn more from sharing them and potentially gain some insight from others.

February has not been so kind to me in this sense.. or in any other aspect. When I look back on February I feel ashamed of myself and the lack of motivation and energy I‘ve been demonstrating. Even though I‘m feeling physically better... there has been something on my soul, or what I can say, that makes me waste my days in horrible ways with no productivity at all.

That is just not me.

But maybe this one month of de-motivation was what I needed? I hope so.. Because when I feel ashamed of myself I expect to perform better and be more organized and reach my potentials. I can NOT have one more month of doing absolutely nothing.
But anyways, my lack of motivation was not going to be my main subject for this post. But rather state of mind – which motivation belongs to – and what affects this state of mind and how it affects your daily life.

There have been many things happening this month.. sad, hurtful, joyful moments have come and gone. I‘ve been happy one minute and then cried the next. I‘ve rekindled friendship, I‘ve experienced a crush, I‘ve had an argument and I‘ve felt hurt by people I care about. when I look back on February I‘m glad about my personal life but sad about my professional life.

So my main question for this post is „how to make a balance between personal and professional feelings and motivation?“

I read somewhere that if you are happy at home you take that attitude and state of mind to your work. And vice versa. And usually that has been my case.

But my state of mind this month has been so up and down, so back and forth, so unclear and so focused that I cannot seem to find any balance. Or at least not in the beginning of the month. Now, as I reflect on my actions this month and my awareness of my mindset, my willingness to alter that mindset have started to sink in.. and I‘m feeling smile come over more as well as I feel little things are creating energy within me. Something that my mindset earlier this month would not allow.

But what happened?

My personal belief is that when your feelings are so messed up you find it hard to direct any motivation from them in the areas where the motivation and energy is needed. So despite the fact that generally I feel happy personally, the mix of emotions that led to that happiness created a hinder for my motivation on my professional site. Without knowing it I blamed boredom and unappealing projects for the lack of motivation, when deep down it was me that was failing myself.

Why the positive change?

I started thinking more, being critical about my behaviour and that led to this shame I feel, this understanding that this messiness is not me. I start to appreciate the small things again. The sun, the birds, the art I see, the different environments I encounter and the people who really treat me nice. I was too focused on one thing and one thing only. And balance does not come from that. My state of mind was challenged and I have started to let go.. and make sure others are let in. My mindset has altered and I feel the smile come back.

So my last thoughts as I allow February to pass with its heart ache, its tears, its smiles and its love, is that I have to be careful of what creates my balance, and what mindset I have to be in to allow this to happen.

I have to be open-minded as the small things, the unexpected things, the surroundings, are the main contribution to my happiness and energy. So with the right mindset and happy feelings, I feel much more ready to enter March and tackle it with more productivity than I have shown in the passing month.

I hope this post made any sense to you – as I write it, I start making more sense of it myself.

-with love-

Luck of the dragon - is this your year?

Its the end of the month, the first month of this new year - the year of the dragon!
the year of the dragon is supposed to be a lucky year, according to what I hear. Why that is, I'm not sure. But I like it.
So far, this year has been awesome. is it because of the dragon spirit, I'm not sure either. But it is good none the less.

I believe luck is what you make of it. and with the attitude that this year will be great, it will be your lucky year.. then the chances of that coming true increase enormously.
I want to believe that at least.

So why do I want to believe this?
Well, I believe that if we believe something, we think about it regularly the more likely we are to act accordingly and take decisions that lead us to that direction. Maybe even without knowing that we are doing so.
By believing we are taking a bit more control over our lives, and what happens in them.
By believing, in whatever it is - luck of a dragon year or whatever - the mind starts to visualize where it wants to go, what it is that he believes in and how to get there.

For the people who feel like their lives are not going where they want it to be, I question if they actually know where they want it to be, do they believe that they can get there and do they believe that they are worth getting there?
Because if not, in my opinion, the mind has not visualize it enough to take decisions guided by that vision.

Life is hard.
We all know that from time to time.
But if we believe in something, we really want it, then life can get just a little bit better as we work our way towards it.
Or at least that is my opinion.

Just wanted to share this, just a small thought that needs even more reflection and discussion :)

- with love -

Value driven actions - I am worth it :)

Life takes unexpected turns, in a spur of a moment the path you are on might not feel right, might offer many twists and turns and uncertainty ahead.

But these changes dont happen by themselves. As people we stand in front of choices, we take decisions, we walk the directions we believe to give us something.

I've talked about the idea of fighting for the people who you want to have in your life. I realized when I wrote it, that it might be a wishful thinking.. being so couragous to contact, to reach out, to open up to strangers, even if they leave a mark on you which you cant explain.
But if you do take the chance, it just might bring your life to unexpected turns, for the better.

I've always believed I'm capable of anything. And I am.
But if I think something is wishful thinking, not really gonna happen but a nice idea, then I'm never gonna be able to do this, get what I want, to be with the person I want to be.
I'm then gonna settle on something that I might see more "reachable".
Isnt that sad?

few posts ago I wrote about a quote I saw in a book I was reading, "what is your life worth, is it worth the life you are living".
And its a strange sentence but it makes so much sense.
How much to I value my life?
Do my actions and ideas reflect that value?
If I have wishful thinking but dont think I can reach it, am I then not undervalue my life?

My life today is great, because people were not afraid to reach out, to open up, to stop believing in wishful thinking and start believing in what they are worth. And the good thing that came out of this is what they believe fits the value of their lives.
It might not make any sense to you..
but this makes so much sense to me.

As I sit here and write this, I'm realizing more how I need to start valuing my life and thinking that my actions should reflect on how much I do value it, and that I'm worth it.
I hope you do too.

-with love-